Disagree Well — Steady, See, Say, Repair

The Problem

"Everyone disagrees. What decides whether a disagreement damages a relationship or deepens it is not whether it happens, but what the body does in the first minute, what the mind can still see, what gets said, and what happens afterwards. Each of those can be learned."

What you'll achieve

Outcomes you can expect

Settle your body with a reset matched to fight, flight, freeze or fawn
Turn a charged sentence into an observation, a feeling, a need and a request
Set a boundary that is kind and firm, and give feedback that leaves identity intact
Make small repairs early, and a full restorative repair when you caused the damage

The science behind it

What you'll learn

Why regulating comes before reasoning in a conflict
How stress narrows your thinking, and how to stretch your perspective
How to decode a conflict as a collision of character strengths
How to turn a recurring trigger into a capacity and make meaning from a hard conflict

What's included

Everything you get

17 interactive tools across 4 modules, including the Capacity Map taken at the start and the end
An audio guide for every tool, and four guided audio sequences in the Nervous System Reset
A Foundation Note and a Course Materials reader for each module
Fillable workbook editions of fifteen tools, kept on your own device

Who it's for

The right fit

Designed for For anyone who wants to handle disagreement better, with a partner, flatmate, parent, friend, colleague, teammate or group-project partner.

A conflict-resolution course in four modules, ordered the way a conflict has to be handled: steady first, see it clearly, say it well, then repair and grow. Regulating comes before reasoning, seeing clearly comes before speaking, and repair is treated as a skill of its own. Two measures frame the course: the Conflict Resilience Capacity Map, taken at the start and again at the end, and the Perspective Elasticity Profile in Module 2.

Common questions

FAQ

Do I need to do another course first?

No. No prior course is needed.

Who wrote the exercises?

The tools are built on conflict-resolution exercises by four practitioners, Lara Ćatić, Emma Mudge, Lorena Berber and Jo Nash, used under licence. Each tool credits its author on its Learn tab and keeps the references as written.

Can I work offline?

Fifteen tools have fillable workbooks you keep on your own device. The two scored measures stay online, because they work out your results for you.

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Handle disagreement in the order it happens: body, mind, words, repair

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